''Had it not been for what I found on the computer, I might still be in my unhappy marriage,'' she said. Jennifer doubts he would have come clean on his own, at least not so quickly. But when they talked later, her husband confessed to having a series of one-night stands with men from the time he was 16, she said. ''There was no concrete evidence he had cheated he could have been curious or whatever,'' Jennifer said. The sheer volume of what she had found was convincing, although circumstantial. In the darkened room, lighted only by the computer screen, she got down to business, opening each and every Web site and taking copious notes for the confrontation that would follow. She remembers a dizzying rush of emotion and then feeling numb. But suddenly that seemed an inescapable conclusion. Jennifer, now 29, had never suspected that her husband was gay.
But it also solved a mystery: why marriage to her childhood sweetheart had been so unsatisfying. What she found there - 30 gay pornography sites and chat rooms - astounded her. JENNIFER's infant son was tucked in for the night and her husband was at work when she logged onto her home computer in Port Huron, Mich., looking for the forgotten name of a travel Web site she had used earlier in the day.Ī few simple keystrokes, nothing geeky, took her to the history box on the Internet browser, a listing of recently visited Web sites.
